Rest In Peace Kate spade. This is what I’ve seen on half my timeline. As someone that has battled mental health disorder , I feel compassionate with her battle but also compassionate with her family as they have to deal with the loss of a family member. But this isn’t about an RIP post, are you really compassionate or just doing it for the likes and want to be seen as compassionate? While everyone post RIP post , tomorrow the world will forget about Kate spade , mental health and those that are really dealing with mental health disease still have to deal with their own battles and being judged. Kate spade death is horrible however, suicides happens all the time just that is not viewed as much . It takes someone famous to commit suicide for people to make it a trend on social media. Everyone is saying “we need to talk about it more “ yet many are not talking about it. People are still judging , people still don’t know about it and yes I can point out ppl that will school you on mental health. But if never experience depression, anxiety , Schizophrenia and don’t have anyone around that hasn’t experience it either , be compassionate yes very true but educate yourself about it. For example, a few weeks ago I was on the L train and saw two transgender men homeless discussing the issues surrounding the transgender community . I then went and did my own research about it because I resonated with their story. I’m compassionate with groups because that’s just me as a person but also they are humans just like I am. If a topic that supposedly interest you than talk about it . Don’t just say “we need to talk about it” like Nike says “just do it” .
I am a mental health survivor and there are many people like me and even worst. When someone is going through pain yes check up on them , even if u don’t initially get it , people forget that their loved ones they also have to live with someone that has mental health and is not easy. Social media created this space that people are bringing up the topic but people are not really talking about it. We still are in a popularity contest and being liked is better than not being liked. I’ve mentioned this that social media depression is happening and happening at rapid rate because of this popularity show going on. I’m still seeing the same people preach “motivation” “inspiration” but throw subliminals , why because they want to be accept for just being petty. If you have an opinion about something say it even if is an unpopular opinion it creates a conversation and both sides can get something out if it.
Through out my mental health history ,I’ve dealt with depression since 16 and anxiety since 23 and diagnose with depression at 23 and 29 with panic attacks. In the last 5 years , I’ve researched and understand why this is happening to me. I’ve study mental health disorder to understand myself and ways to cure it. I did that for me and so I can better educate others as to why things happen. Is not the same for everyone , this is my experience, my journey. Yet I still get judged and others like me as well . Someone from my neighbor died a few months ago , there was a big conversation about it. However , no one is talking about it anymore yet her family are left to deal with the loss of a loved one and the rest of us that have to battle this are left to deal with it as well. Is more than just saying “you can talk to me “ etc . If you really want to help, then help , if you really want to educate them educate and be consistent with it.
Depression can be rich or poor. Happy or sad . White or black . Short or y’all . Young as 4 or old as 50 . It does not give a fuck. Someone super close to me one time found himself living with rats because it’s depression was so sad he didn’t see life as light. Depression drains your soul. There was time at the peek of my depression that I didn’t take a shower for days. I didn’t see the purpose and yet I looked happy in front of others. Suicide didn’t crossed my mind ever but for others it did . Some of us are fighting super horrible battles from within. The door has been open slightly a little of this topic but if you really want to keep pushing, teach yourself and then others