This past Fall, I read “self love experiment” by Shannon Kaiser and is about her journey to self love. I was just roaming around Barnes and noble one night and came across this book and I was going to buy the Intelligent investor book but as always the universe has a way to put on the path where you need to be. The cover of this book first caught my eye and then I went through it and saw some interesting topics that align with my current purpose.
So this book teaches you 15 principles on how to achieve self love. She called it the self love experiment because it was her journey and her experiment. Is funny because I’ve been on my own journey to good health,self love. However I still feel that I’m lacking something like there’s still parts of me I don’t like. Which took me to my next question , what really is self care? And right before I picked up this book , I was already thinking of this question (the universe oh u funny). Shannon breaks down every element of self care and self love and like the writer that I am , I got my little pen and steered journaling and writing my thoughts with every chapter I passed. I came to a conclusion on what self care is .
Self care is self love and self respect. Self care yes is taking care of your body , feeding your body pampering yourself , etc. but self care is self respect and self love . How? Resting how you treat yourself. When you know good you do good . And when you respect yourself ,others will respect you. But respecting yourself is showing your self some kindness and self love which that’s what self care is self love and kindness.but someone that didn’t really practice that in life how do u get there , hmmm ??? Start small. I started and there’s still parts of myself that I haven’t reached but the parts that I’ve reached I asked myself like what is it about this that I don’t like and I don’t respect? How can we work together and get to a loving relationship. My relationship with men have been tricky, is the lack of self love I displayed for myself in the past. I grew up with daddy issues (no longer ) so I always seek things in men that I knew they never were going to give it to me but the comfort felt good so I thought I knew. Is a fantasy I wanted but never gotten. So I had to develops a relationship with my own self , be in my own relationship with myself to get to the place of self love. To get to that level is also developing a self care with the mind and body. I’ve battle major depression for 10 years on and off starting when I was 16 years old. I was diagnosed at 23 with depression and at 23 I had my first panic attack and is something I’m coping with still at 31 years old. So what I’m trying to say is that having self love self respect you develop body kindness with your body and mind . They all connect and it starts with one, baby steps. These are questions I’m asking myself still I write them out to go back and reread them.
My mindset is different from where it was a5 years ago , even a year ago . I’ve grown a lot mentally this year by acknowledging what I need to work in myself and keeping it moving. When you realize your flaws and that you need to work on them things begin to flow in your life.